While most people were busy starting their new year with a long list ( or a short one for that matter) of resolutions, my nine year old was making a list of what she wants in a boy.
I've mentioned on this blog before exactly how important I think it is for the parents of girls to start early and instill in them what to look for in a boy/man as they grow into strong, independent women. I call a list like this non-negotiable items when it comes to relationships. And while her list make grow and change with her, Lord knows I wish someone would've sat me down and had me think through a list like this, even at 18.
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Here's her list that I, by the way, did not help her with......all items she came up with herself most probably based on her experience with me and her dad compared to Jason and I. Kids are perceptive, I say, more than you could ever imagine.
1. funny
2. will stick up for me
3. a great personality
4. will love and respect me like Jason & mama
5. not clingy
6. have his own friends
7. be able to laugh all the time
8. has a good memory (like for birthdays and stuff)
9. lets me be independent and not force me to do "his stuff"
10. not agree with me all the time
11. not secretive
12. be his own person but still a good dad/husband/boyfriend
13. don't disregard others
14. has to be honest and truthful
15. good with money and saving
16. has to protect me
17. should not be embarrassed by his love for me
18. had to be trustable
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I'm willing to bet that there are some people out there MY AGE who have many of these things on their NNL, too. :)
Wow! She is wise beyond her years...
ReplyDeleteI love you Maddie!
Absolutely perfect!
ReplyDeleteThat's awesome! My list was like "Must love DC Talk and MACaroni and Cheese"... ha ha ha... it totally changed though, and eventually the Lord required me to lay it all down and just TRUST Him to bring the right man to me. 3 days later I met Rocky :)
ReplyDeleteHere is a couple of items that might have been helpful for your list in High School.
ReplyDelete1. Taller than me.
2. Can breathe through his nose.
That made me laugh. I think your nine year old is on the right track.
ROFLMBO...Rocky...seriously.....you are SO right about that, but can we PLEASE never again go back through the list of ex boyfriends? LOL!
ReplyDeleteWow, isn't that so neat?! Your Maddie and my Madi sound like they are so much alike! I think that's awesome that you encourage that. Way to go Mom! :) Happy New Year!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wise Granddaughter we have!!! Maddie we are so proud of you.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wise mom Maddie has. Tisha, you are a fantastic Mom, wife and daughter. We are also so very proud of you!
You bet! I couldn't help myself. I really could have gone on, but I think those two nailed it! You turned out alright though!
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